Have you ever wondered why you keep getting the same results when you actually want to change? Do you keep repeating the same mistake or meeting the same "toxic" people?
You attract what you focus on the most in your life and if your thoughts are directed towards avoiding pain, worries, problems, etc... you will get more pain, worries, and problems.
It is often easier to stay in your so called 'comfort zone' than to step into the unknown. Saying that, how comfortable is it when it does not bring you happiness? Should it be called 'habit zone'?
There is a simple first step you can take to shift your mindset: "Focus on the end result of what you love!" (~ Darren Eden). In other words, think about what you want instead of what you do not want.